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Showing posts with label stress. Show all posts
Showing posts with label stress. Show all posts

hellooooo post grad friends! i've missed writing to you so much. in the past couple months, i've transitioned from one job to the next and been elected to a community board so, needless to say, i am BUSY. however, i want to get back to writing and sharing my post grad experience. to all of you who asked me to continue writing, thank you. i truly enjoy it. now on to business....today's post is a bit of a rant about the monster that no one really talks about that lives under your bed during your college days: student loans.


WARNING: i am about to be EXTREMELY transparent in hopes that it will encourage someone else. 

hi, my name is alysha and i am over $100,000 in debt. 

no, it's not because i have a ridiculously addiction to shopping (although, i really do have a shopping problem, but that belongs on another blog.) this debt has been accumulated while trying to better myself through higher education. i had no idea what i was getting myself into freshman year when i signed my first loan agreement and within seconds placed myself $18,000 in debt. 

i don't think any of us do. it isn't until four years later after we've experienced the happiest moment of our young adult lives, graduating college that we realize exactly six months later we'll have to pay for our happy years every month. furthermore, we don't realize HOW MUCH we'll have to pay for those years...every month. unfortunately, not one of my undergraduate classes prepared me for the horror which is my monthly loan bills. 

it wouldn't be so bad if i was in a job making 45k+, sitting in the shade drinking lemonade, and had ample amounts of extra cash. but, it is quite the contrary. i am a broke graduate counting my change in the mcdonald's drive thru. my loan providers have no remorse. when i call them to lower my payments, they tell me there's no way out. i didn't know signing a loan agreement was like signing over your soul to the devil. so now, i have a job i love dearly, but the money i make will soon not be enough for me to actually live and pay my loans at the same time. 

the crazy part is: i prepared for this. i calculated out how much i was going to have to pay every month after i graduated college. my estimates were way off to say the least. i honestly don't know what the answer is to this problem my fellow grads. what do you do when your skills qualify you for one salary, but your bank account asks for another? my answer is: you work and have faith. i know that some way, some how i will not go under. if it means getting another job, i'll do it. if it means changing jobs, i'll do it. applying to graduate school? i'll do it. (fyi: if you're going to graduate, they'll defer you longer as soon as you get an acceptance letter). 

bottom line is: don't stop fighting ladies and gents. if you're experiencing loan issues: 

#1 call your provider
if you get the right person on the phone, they may be able to help you. you have the most wiggle room with the federal government because they have several payment options. i called and had my payment split in half. (thanks jesus)

#2 know your options 
whether it's consolidation or forbearance, research what you can do. i don't really suggest forbearance because it's basically another deferment where interest continues to grow on your principal. however, if you seriously can't make payments, it's an option. consolidation is great if you have horrible interest rates. consolidate with a credit unions because they give better interest rates and have incentives with membership. you don't have to currently be a member of a credit union. there are sites online such as CuGrad that will help you through the process of becoming a member and consolidating. you can also try to consolidate through your current bank. sometimes they offer incentives if you bank with them and then consolidate with them. here's some additional information on options learn your options

#3 work your little booty off. 
set up a budget and save as much money as you can.  in the case of a emergency or if you're strapped for cash,  you can borrow from yourself. look for part time positions that are not stressful or difficult to take on for a short period of time. 

remember, all situations are temporary and all problems are fixable :]

thinking of ideas for my next post...i was thinking a resume breakdown. how many of you need assistance with your resume? what topics would you like me to write on? comment below & share this post with your friends. 

-AMB


 This is an excerpt from a daily devotion from biblegateway.com called Girlfriends In God. This particular posting is from June 26, 2013 and written by Mary Southerland. I highly recommend this devotion for women of all ages who are seeking Christian spiritual guidance. 

However, I believe this excerpt is a important lesson for everyone. I'm not going to lie, lately I've been feeling discouraged in this job search. Although I seem to be finding better job postings everyday and my cover letter writing skills are wonderful, I'm not getting the response I want. I've went on several interviews, yet the right position hasn't came my way. I recognize that I want the right job not just any job. By that I mean, I truly believe that there's a position that God has chosen for me. That position will lead me to my future career, provide me with the finances I need, and develop me. Everyone has a position that is the perfect fit for them. Now perfect doesn't necessarily mean comfortable. It may not be excellent money or glamorous, but its right for you right now. 

As the bills come rolling in for my enriching, yet highly expensive liberal arts education, it's easy to lose hope. I began to lose confidence in my skills and lost faith that a position that will provide would appear. I began to stress as my anxiety about the future built. What I was failing to see was the beauty in waiting or as referred to above: rest. 

If you haven't read the excerpt in the photo already, READ NOW! :) 

The writer uses a story from her childhood about learning to play the piano. Long story short, she wanted to jump to playing and skip all the preparation. Her piano teacher was trying to instill the basics in her: the notes. She was completely uninterested until her piano teacher came to the most important concept in music, a rest. This was so profound to me. The most important step is rest. 

Without rest, we won't be prepared for what God has for us in the future. Rest means preparation, growth, restoration, and dependence. You must prepare for everything you do in life. We can't skip to being CEOs and millionaires without networking and hard work. This is what this time is for. It's important to have a pause where you grow and evaluate. When I get a full time position, I won't be able to sleep all day or paint my nails fun colors or wholeheartedly pursue getting my license. Recognize that just because you haven't found your dream job, doesn't mean that there's not work to be done. What should you be doing today that you haven't done? Do you need to simply rest and take a minute away from your busy schedule? What can you achieve now that cannot be done later? 

Secondly, there's the dependency portion. My mom always used to tell me to pray before the test the following prayer: 
Lord, I did my part by studying now do your part
If you prepare, God will do the rest. It's one part preparation, one part dependence. You have to be confident in not only your abilities and work, but also in God's faithfulness. Know that it can and will work out. Your loan bills will be paid. You will get to six figures one day. We spend too much time stressing instead of truly resting. By resting I mean having peace by doing own part then handing it over to God.

This portion of your life right now, let's call it  PRE-EMPLOYMENT is exactly that. It's the PRELUDE for the best portion of your life. It's the calm before the storm, the preparation before the prize. It is not in vain, for it has a purpose. You cannot play piano without learning how to read sheet music. You have to learn every note and practice reading before you actually get to sit down and play. When you start playing, you won't be a star piano player, but the preparation and practice will help you. The more you prepare and learn, the better you will be at playing piano. 

Don't lose hope for God has a plan and it's perfect. The bible says its better that what we've dreamed and imagined. Rest in that today. 


-amb